Supporting Men During Hard Times
What’s Inside:
Life Transitions for Men
What lies beyond work? Do you dream of golfing all day, or is it just not your thing? Lots of men are in jobs that no longer make them happy or fulfilled. Their work doesn’t satisfy them anymore.
You may ask the question: is it too late to make a career change, I’m 45 years old. Do you think you’ll have to work at the same job and company for the next 20 years until you retire?
Men often connect their identities to their work and career. They toil for a living, day in and day out, years of dedicating their lives to being their best. Sometimes they climb that ladder, and sometimes they don’t.
And, there will come a time when you ask yourself, “is this all there is, is this it?” You got what you wanted, but now you feel empty. You rest your feet on the desk and look out the window. You try to fill the emptiness by going to casinos or nightclubs, pursuing younger women or nicer cars.
More is not the answer. More things to fill the void, will not cure what ails you.
There are two ways to live when you reach this age. The first path is horizontal and leads to death. It is a path of suffering and disconnection.
Two Paths to Travel
On the Horizontal path, the drive for more goes unchecked and fails to take into consideration your soul. More money, more fun is more distraction.
The second path is the Vertical path. This is a unique way, not commonly chosen, but it brings happiness, bonding, and calmness.
This involves making choices that are best for you. These choices include ending relationships or changing careers. What are you holding onto, refusing to let go of, that is a cause of your suffering?
Time in nature, away from routine, is one of the most reliable ways to gain clarity. Feeling the support, hearing the wisdom, and connecting with other men in meaningful ways also can make a difference.
Fatherless Sons
Many moms have faced the challenge of raising a son alone, a monumental task for two parents, much less one. Boys need guidance from men to learn wisdom and understand their responsibilities. They need to approach work with mindfulness and care.
To become a man is to accept the initiation that awaits. It means his adult life will be different from youth and responsibilities will change.
Sometimes, a boy needs guidance to understand what it means to be a man as he grows up. A man is someone capable of taking care of himself physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually.
Furthermore, every man deserves the opportunity to belong and experience acceptance. It’s important to uphold virtues such as temperance, patience, kindness, humility, diligence, chastity, and charity.
The Career Man
Advancing in a company is risky, office politics are treacherous and can result in failure. Career transitions deserve a space where they can be talked through honestly, without judgment.
People often refer to the Heroes’ Journey through the world of business and life. This is based on the work of Joseph Campbell. It is a deep dive on how to be your own hero as you face trials and tribulations. Remember that you are the main character in your own story.
Our late 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s are years of career growth and building a life. Deciding whether to stay or leave your job is tough. It’s good to have a space where you can talk and listen to wise advice. A Mental Health Retreat is a great place to discuss careers and career transitions, while some opt for life coaching packages that can be very beneficial as well.
What are you working for? What is your purpose? Have you answered your calling?
Tradework is important for everyone. Society relies on people who work hard every day, even in tough situations. Bills, children, wives, friends, weekends, and long hours all take a toll on a man’s mental health. When fatigue, anxiety, and depression mount, life can become unbearable.
It is important to remember that while competition is necessary, it will be cooperation that leads to peace. Teams of people cooperating achieve and create greatness; it does not happen alone. The culture of an organization is what determines how well it performs, and it starts with the leader’s mental health.
Are You Feeling Disconnected From Your Spouse?
The great writer Thoreau said, Most of us live lives of “quiet desperation.” Does this describe how you’re feeling? Do you feel alone? Do you feel overwhelmed with future financial obligations? Do you feel alone at night, even though your partner is close by?
Reconnecting to yourself starts with asking these questions honestly. When men understand themselves better, they communicate their needs and desires more clearly in relationships. This results in a more tranquil life.
Moving Beyond the Struggle of Silence:
It is important for men to be able to talk about their mental and emotional challenges. Sometimes, men are busy and wonder when they can relax and be themselves. Talking openly with other men during hard times can make a real difference
Life coaches help people become the best version of themselves by giving information, support, and encouragement. Coaches offer tools, stories, and wisdom to help people navigate life’s changes.
Men’s Retreats in Sedona provide opportunities for men to gain new perspectives and new insights. They help them understand that they are not alone and that other men have faced similar situations. Navigating mid-life can be challenging and costly. Knowing how to navigate the second half of life leads to a more peaceful existence. See more about men’s purpose and well-being.
Being part of a group of dedicated men is important for a successful life. Do you want to live a good life by thinking, reflecting, and having faith, so that you become a miracle?
